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Wednesday, May 4, 2011

THREE LESSONS FROM A BACHELOR PARTY


I just returned from a bachelor party in Atlantic City for two high school friends of mine, both of whom are marrying two girls who are themselves, best friends.  I am not going to divulge the details and stories of the weekend, however, I will reveal the three lessons to be learned from bachelor and bachelorette parties.

The most obvious lesson to be learned is by the bachelor to be no more…the one for whom the weekend is about.  While away from his soon to be bride and surrounded by booze, women, roulette tables and his crew, he will learn if he is ready to get married and if he is marrying the right woman.  If the bachelor feels like he is a dog let out of a kennel while on his bachelor party, and goes absolutely crazy, then maybe he is not marrying the right woman.  A man, or woman, should not marry someone who makes them feel suffocated and trapped, or who prevents them from living the life they want to live, or close to it.

Another way a man can tell if he is marrying the right woman is if after a day or two of partying with the guys, he misses his fiancé.  If a man is surrounded by the aforementioned vices, and still misses his woman, then it is clear that he is making the right decision to get hitched.

The second lesson to be learned is by the fiancé who is not on the bachelor party.  If your man is at a bachelor party and you are at home, or with your friends, panicking and worrying what he might be doing, then you may not be marrying the right one.  However, if you know your man is surrounded by booze, strippers, gambling and other fun, and you are actually happy for him and fully trust him, then you have the trust your relationship needs to succeed.

The final lesson to be learned is by the fellow bachelors, or married men, on the bachelor party.  It is a time for reflection on their own relationships and romantic situations.  A good friend’s marriage without a doubt causes those around them to question whether they should make the same move, and whether they are with the right woman.  If a fellow bachelor finds himself missing his significant other, or on the contrary, partying like John Belushi, he should take heed of the signs.

A bachelor party is one of the first real tests of the strength of a relationship.  It tests the trust between the couple as well as the bachelor’s desire to either party with the guys or settle down with his lady.  It gives a sneak peek into the future dynamic of the marriage.  It is a good gauge of whether either spouse will feel jealous, neglected, smothered, suffocated, lonely or hopefully, happy.  Unfortunately, by the time of the bachelor party, it is too late for the fiancés to change their minds, but for those who are not yet engaged, it is a great opportunity to examine their own relationships.

Take the poll on the right and test your own feelings on your significant other's bachelor or bachelorette party adventures.

1 comment:

  1. Bachelor parties in Atlantic City are really awesome. And I agree with the thoughts of your lessons learned. Thanks for posting.

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